Diagnosis

Diagnosis


Question:
I started with a new therapist and she kept arguing with me about whether or not I had Borderline Personality Disorder and she said that since I was diagnosed with it before, it wasnít possible to be cured. I explained that I knew myself and I can see my own symptoms. I know that I donít have the same symptoms I used to have. I just wanted to get past it because there are many other things on my mind, but she was incredibly difficult. What is her problem? She wasnít being helpful at all.


Answer:
I don't know what to make of your meeting with your therapist. I do know that you cannot control how others act or express themselves, nor can you read minds. Unless you really want to pursue it, you'll probably never know what was up with her. She could have been having a weird day for all you know. The point though is that it's about her, not you.

It sounds like you came to her with clear objectives and stated them in the best possible manner you knew how. Apparently, she carried another agenda into the conversation.

I would encourage you to let it go for the moment. Give it another chance with an open mind. Maybe you could practice radical acceptance? You could accept that you did the best you can and that you cannot control others and that what happened happened. You could also use a little Mindfulness: observing. When the situation comes to mind, observe it's presence, acknowledge it then let it fly by. "Thanks for the visit, don't bother to write.


If you're feeling better than you used to, great! If you can relate to some of the BPD symptoms, then do whatever you need to do within that community to help you for as long as you continue to find it useful. If DBT is helping, stay with it, regardless of diagnosis. I personally think DBT could be helpful to everyone on the planet.

When it all shakes out in the end, there's still only today, only this moment. We can only do one thing at a time and if we do our best right now, we've lived another moment successfully.


- Lisa

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