What Defines your Wholeness?
“We recognize that every form—from the smallest quantum unit to the largest universal structure—is engendered within the Wholeness of Spirit, and that “in spite of all appearances” and behind such images as disease and dysfunction, Spiritual Perfection dwells. Such realization reveals to our consciousness a more perfect state of being for ourselves and others.”
-- Stephanie Sorensen ~ The Sacred Continuum
By Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
Author of
THE ART OF BEING, 101 Ways To Practice Purpose In Your  Life

One of the greatest quagmires in which new students of metaphysics seem to get caught up, lies in the mistaken idea that wholeness is a condition that is manifest after everything in one’s life is perfect. The greater Truth is that everything already is Perfect, in spite of those times when our five senses might report to us a different reality. No doubt, this can be hard to embrace when we are enmeshed in a painful physical or emotional condition that is privately screaming in our inner ear: “There’s something missing here.” For most of us, from this state of consciousness, what we believe is missing is “Wholeness”. We have mistaken Wholeness to be a human condition which we will one day arrive at where there will be; no pain; no challenges; no disease; no dysfunction, and, no dark nights of the soul—a place where there is nothing but peace, love, light and pleasure.

As we mature spiritually we learn it doesn’t mean that at all. These are ALL conditions that come as part of the human experience. As long as we dwell in these earthly garments of flesh and bone we will be subject to the human condition. Every master teacher I have ever studied has had to contend with the aforementioned challenges. What did they know that we have yet to learn? I recall, forever etched in the walls of my mind, the words from one of my mentors, the late Dr. Fletcher Harding: “Wholeness is a state of Being, not a condition.” Being, is another word for God’s Presence, manifesting in our experience NOW, irrespective of what it may look like to the world. The great teacher Jesus was saying the same thing when he admonished us to “Judge not according to appearances, but judge ye with righteous judgment.” Righteous judgment is simply seeing the Truth at the center of all conditions; God is still there.

One of my greatest teachers of this “Principle of Wholeness” was an individual by the name of Jolane Dickey. For nearly twenty years, Jolane was a member of the church I pastored. She made her transition this past week after many, many years of living with Multiple Sclerosis. Her passing is being deeply grieved by many. My greatest memories of her are centered on the fact that she refused to be defined by her condition. Yes, she suffered greatly at the physical level but she never lost sight of the fact that she knew she was more than her condition and she proved it by showing up in life in very colorful ways. She refused to “drop out” and surrender to the label of victim. There was never any doubt when Jolane was in church because she always sat in her wheelchair in the very front row and on many occasion, with great passion in her voice “assisted” me in delivering my lessons. She was a sassy lady who squeezed the essence out of every moment because she deeply appreciated the precious gift of life.

Spiritual Perfection is an inherent part of each of us and it is never diminished by conditions.

There was never any doubt when Jolane was in church because she always sat in her wheelchair in the very front row and on many occasion, with great passion in her voice “assisted” me in delivering my lessons. She was a sassy lady who squeezed the essence out of every moment because she deeply appreciated the precious gift of life. There was no identity crisis with Jolane--she knew who she was, and, perhaps equally importantly, she knew who she wasn’t. She was very clear that she was not her body. While her body slowly gave in to the condition, her spirit, mind and heart never did. Because she understood that her wholeness was not determined by the experience she was having, she became an incredible source of inspiration to the entire congregation and many others in the community. Her sense of wholeness came from a deep remembrance of her oneness with Source, God. She understood that God is not defined by or as any condition. By choosing to live with a sense of Wholeness she made a difference in the lives of those who witnessed her life. Over the years as I beheld Jolane (along with her amazing spouse Frank, who never saw her as less than perfectly whole) moving through her journey with such extraordinary courage and grace she became one of my heroes. You could say she always has been and always shall be a hero of Wholeness.

Spiritual Perfection is an inherent part of each of us and it is never diminished by conditions. With an awareness of this Truth comes a wholeness of Spirit; it enables us to accept the moment at hand as perfect, just the way it is, knowing that nothing is ever missing in God’s Presence. Our job is to cease judging by appearances and start knowing the Truth. Will knowing the Truth automatically change or “fix” that which we have previously labeled as imperfect? Understanding the power of an affirmative mind, it may, but even if it doesn’t, it won’t really matter because we will have ceased judging ourselves, as well as others, as anything less than Whole just the way we are. Wholeness is a natural part of the Sacred Continuum—that journey of Spirit navigating Its way through the human experience as you and me. This is the journey that unfailingly takes us to the place we never really left, which is our oneness with the All.


Peace, Dennis Merritt Jones, D.D.
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