Today’s focus is on being effective. Rather than emphasizing the end result, concentrate on conducting yourself effectively, which focuses on the most productive process, your choice to use skillful means. What works, in this sense, is a focus on continually developing skills and connecting to reality.
This article was originally published on DBTSelfHelp.com as part of the series "Well Said." Many of us are too hard on ourselves when we struggle through our first Dialectical Behavior Therapy experience and feel like we just can't do it. I have personally been...
The Dialectical Behavioral Therapy skills are good, healthy ways to be effective. But I have found some other things, particular to myself, that are useful especially when I’m feeling rebellious or willful about using skills. Sometimes, I just can’t think clearly enough to use the skills. These are behaviors that I have found to be effective – keep me safe – but not what you would want to think of as a skill. That’s why I call them “intermediate.”
